Your older child is going through something significant. And they cannot say so yet.
Almost all children show some change in behaviour after a sibling's birth. Not because something is wrong with them. Because they are communicating what they cannot yet put into words.
Big Kid, New Baby is the research-grounded guide to preparing your child for the arrival of a sibling. Age-tabbed, academically referenced, and written with the warmth this transition deserves.
For the parent who loves both children equally and is terrified of getting the balance wrong.
If This Is You
The feeling that brought you here is exactly right.
This guide was written for these specific experiences. Not the generic version. The real one.
You are worried your older child will feel displaced and you do not know how to prevent it.
Research shows you cannot prevent all of it. But you can manage the transition in ways that significantly reduce the distress and build the sibling relationship at the same time.
Your child has started regressing or acting out and you do not know how to respond.
This is normal. It is communication. This guide tells you exactly what the regression means and what response it requires.
You do not know how to talk to your child about the new baby in a way that is honest and age-appropriate.
The guide has separate sections for under-threes, three to seven year olds, and children eight and over. Every developmental stage gets a different approach.
What’s Inside
32 pages. Every part covered.
A complete guide from beginning to end. Written with warmth. Grounded in research. Made for the real version of this experience.
The Psychology of Displacement
What children actually experience when a sibling arrives, grounded in decades of research by Judy Dunn, Brenda Volling, and others.
Age-by-Age Preparation
Tabbed sections for under-threes, three to seven year olds, and children eight and over. Go directly to what is relevant to your child.
The Conversations to Have Before Birth
What to say, when to say it, how to name difficult feelings in advance so they do not emerge as behaviour.
Arrival Day and the First Weeks
How to manage the first meeting, protect familiar routines, and build in protected one-to-one time.
When Jealousy Arrives
How to validate feelings without endorsing behaviour, and what not to do.
Building the Sibling Bond
Research-grounded strategies for building the relationship that may be the longest of your children's lives.
The sibling relationship, built with intention and care, tends to be the longest relationship in a person's life. The foundation is laid now, in these early weeks and months.
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Who This Is For
Written for your specific experience.
The woman who is ready to stop feeling alone in this.
Whatever you are carrying right now, this guide was written by someone who understands that carrying it is hard. Not generic hard. Specifically, honestly, recognisably hard. And it was written for you.
The woman who wants information, not just reassurance.
Reassurance that everything will be fine is available everywhere. This guide gives you something more useful: an honest account of what is actually happening, and what you can actually do about it.
The woman who will come back to this more than once.
This guide is designed to be read at your own pace and returned to as things change. The reflection pages, the toolkits, and the resource signposting make it a working document, not just a one-time read.
The woman reading this anywhere in the world.
Every resource in this guide is internationally accessible. Every framework applies regardless of country, income, or circumstance. This guide was built for a global audience from the first page.
Common Questions
Everything you need to know.
Are the research citations in this guide verifiable?
Yes. This is the only guide in the Eraytees collection with full academic references. A complete reference list is included at the back, citing Dunn and Kendrick, Volling, Gottman, Baydar et al, Howe and Ross, Stewart, and Brazelton. All references are to published academic work.
My child is only 18 months. Will this help?
Yes. The under-threes section addresses children from infancy through to age two and a half. It focuses on experience and routine rather than conversation, which is developmentally appropriate for this age group.
My child is ten. Is there content relevant for them?
Yes. The eight-and-over section addresses older children as the capable, thoughtful people they are. It discusses honest conversation, protecting individual identity, and the career and social implications of the family change.
The research is referenced but does it apply globally?
The academic research cited is internationally recognised developmental psychology, applicable across cultures. Where resources are signposted, they are globally accessible organisations.
Ebook 04 · Siblings and Family
Big Kid
The Complete Parent's Guide to Preparing
Big Kid, New Baby is the research-grounded guide to preparing your child for the arrival of a sibling. Age-tabbed, academically referenced, and written with the warmth this transition deserves.
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